> some old SCSI hard drives and they had really big and VERY powerful magnets
FWIW: modern drives have magnets just as powerful and much smaller. You will probably get better results with your dead last-year home-PC drive guts than with ancient drives.
> All HD magnets I tried are not polarized right.
Correct. See picture. EDIT 12 years later-- re-attached, below.
The coil in a hard drive is a "full turn" (really many full turns). The most efficient magnet has an N and a S pole on each face, to soak both sides of the coil with flux in the right direction.
A standard ribbon mike is a "half-turn" device. It does not loop around, current is all one direction (for the simplified DC case, or a freeze-frame view of AC/audio).
There is a trick. Use two ribbons wired as shown on right. Although I show them nearly touching in the middle, actually the magnet is very weak in the middle. So don't waste ribbon there. However that means an acoustic diaphragm that is more 2-point than 1-point. Since it is already a rather large system (with typical hard drive magnets), the directionality will go crazy in the top-octave.
You could use one ribbon in just one third of the magnet: that sketches fine.
The other thing is: these magnets are about an inch front to back. In a classic bi-di ribbon, this forces one or both sides of the ribbon to be recessed deep inside a solid structure. Hold a toilet paper tube to your ear: this causes an audible coloration of the mid-range. With a 1" or 1/2" box-shape duct between the world and the ribbon, you get the same effect but shifted to the top of the audio band. While sometimes a lucky combination of dimensions gives a boost that corrects some other dip, usually recesses and ducts just mess-up the sound. And if you want messed-up sound, there are plenty of cheap/nasty mikes on the market, or even in your friends' junk boxes.
BTW: in the PC world, "full height" is 3.5 inches or about 9cm. (This size pre-dates the IBM PC.) Half-high is half that. Most current desktop hard drives fit a half-high bay, but are actually less than 1.75"/4.5cm tall, being just tall enough to hold the works. The old "5.25" width (size of some cocktail napkin, the day Shugart was complaining about 8" floppies being too big) was really about 5.5" wide on the drive; the "3.5" width used by 1.44M floppies and most desktop hard drives is about 4" wide.