ive actually gone back to the standard arrangement with 220k into diode into 15k into 56k then 50k pot, with 10uf/ 100v either side of 15k to gnd, i take my ac feed from the HV winding.
getting 34mv one side and 20mv the other now, the tubes im using are used and abused so cant really be trusted so i'll get a new matched pair and then measure again.
now ive changed a few wrong wired bits its sounding pretty good, although its a bit too gainy!!! could do with mellowing it out a bit, will take off some of the extra cathode bypass caps ive put on there and change a few grid resistors from 470k to 1meg as im using 1meg pots.