OK..
I learned a valuable lesson from the advice of many of you here in this thread and others over the last week.
LESS IS MORE
suggestions from many of you urged me to rethink how i work and mix and here is what i came up with:
i went back and unpatched all my compression and effects and started with the raw track straight from the recorder( i only track the raw signals, no compression/effects until mixdown). I then noticed something interesting.. but we'll get to that later... I pulled the overheads up, then the bass drum, and finally the snare to fill in. I left the overheads as they were and patched compression to the snare/kick. sounded really good and actually much nicer.
now for the later part.. i figured out what was causing my mid range bump, however part of it is highly embarrasing
even though i tracked straight to the recorder and the tracks were raw straight from my mic pres, I always bussed the drums to one stereo buss. I always used compression on the drums to keep everything tidy.. I know you see where this is going..
having the overheads bussed through the compressor, even with little compression happening seemed to roll off their high end. (These compressors have polypro/FC caps. I took two of them and switched out the 5532s for opa2604s and the 5534s for opa627s. the problem gets worse with more compression unless I set the attack to the last two clicks(clockwise) which it then starts to get better. this tells me that the compression happening on the drums is killing the overheads, which i learned from advice and trial n' error, really doesn't need compression, or at least needs compression on it's own.
Truthfully i didn't really notice this problem until i started "upgrading my console and started to notice life beyond mud. upgrading caps didn't do as much as swapping opamps did. once i did that I noticed detail in the highs and detail in the lows that were once not noticed. once i started to get more fidelity i started to notice things that affect one another, however it was already habit to leave compression on the buss.
well hopefully someone besides me will learn something from this.. i've been chasing a ghost of a problem that never seemed to have a source until i tried new methods and figured it out by accident!
thanks to you all!
and don't be stupid like me!