[quote author="schmidlin"]errr....I guess I don't know the secret handshake. In all honesty, I'm not trying to be a jerk, but I've gotten more 'coy' answers here than anywhere. [/quote]
No secret handshake, just natural hesitation to post hard won experience and knowledge for all to profit by. But you will find that is not the rule, there is no consistency, everyone decides for themselves how freely they share.
The one thing you will see consistently is the same questions being asked again and again, which over time makes some forum veterans reticent. After repeating yourself a few times, "use the search function" becomes a reflex.
As for attenuators, I missed the group buy as well, so I bought a pair of these Altec attenuators for $50 ea. They appear to be the right thing, but I have yet to test them out:
http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&rd=1&item=260265395599