Hi Alessio,
1) This is exactly correct
2) I was pretty confused about this until after I assembled my unit! I've got the exact configuration you're talking about. Simply put, those parts of the SSC board are another way of implementing bypass for the whole compressor - functions that were on the original GSSL long before Turbo or SSC boards were ever invented.
If you check the GSSL docs you'll see that the control board had outputs to go to the bypass switch, which was a two pole rotary if I recall correctly, as well as to a bypass LED. The SSC board has a section which performs exactly these functions, but with relay switching for the bypass. To clarify, this section is nothing to do with sidechain filtering.
From my understanding (I'm still pretty Noob) the bypass controls whether or not the VCAs on the main board themselves are doing anything, rather than whether the SSC filters are doing anything.
I was so confused that I fully populated both my SSC boards, but at least that process helped me understand what was really going on and why I only needed to have done that on one board - after all the main reason I got into this DIY thing was to learn
3) I believe the R is connected on those diagrams because they were looking at making the modes switchable. I wound up connecting to BOTH L+R on my two SSC boards, but only because I had already fully stuffed them with the 2 x 20K resistors before I realised they only needed a 10K (the 2 x 20 was to sum a stereo signal into an appropriate mono level). If you use both L+R then the 2 x 20K in parallel gives you 10K. This is explained much better by other people who understand it way better than me!
But simply put you only need to use one input on each provided you have the correct resistance.
Good luck - it's TOTALLY WORTH the brain strain of figuring this out, as mentioned above I was blown away by mine