scott2000 said:
Maybe I'm ignorant..... right Along with being a supporter of guys who abuse women.... What a joke.....
I've been trying to figure out a way to address this without getting hackles up, & maybe actually getting some of my point across. It's been a struggle.
So, yeah. I do think you're ignorant. I think lots of men are ignorant (not excluding myself, but I'm trying to figure things out as I go.)
I think that a lot of men struggle to comprehend what it is to be a woman in our society. What it's like to deal with menstruation--what a hassle it is & how truly debilitating the pain can be--and then to have to deal with men giving them sh!t about being "on the rag."
I don't think a lot of men understand how readily and unthinkingly they condescend to women--belittling ideas, looking upon them as weak or helpless, or too "emotional."
I don't think a lot of men appreciate the everyday harassment that women often have to deal with--the catcalls, the unwelcome advances, being followed on streets, etc. It has an impact.
And when we get to assault and rape---I can say that I've seen how psychologically difficult that can be to deal with. More than I'd like to.
And let's think about the balance here. A man who assaults a woman--whether it's copping a feel, or pinning her to a bed, or raping her--the next day, what's he thinking about? He's not thinking about how someone's attack on him made him feel powerless, paranoid, violated, ashamed. He's not thinking about whether to report a crime and relive that nightmare, or even whether to tell a loved one about what happened. No, he's thinking about the next party, or his fantasy league team, or why his boss is such a jerk.
Rarely does the attacker carry emotional/psychological scars; and if he does, they were not ones inflicted by his victim.
There's a grave imbalance in the system. The law tends to be much more forgiving of men than one would like--the "boys will be boys" attitude, or "it'd be such a shame to ruin this fine young man's life because of one mistake"--when that "mistake" has already ruined some young woman's life.
And the imbalances are far more extensive than that, and ingrained in the culture and embedded in the justice system.
I challenge Scott to tell me which of the high-profile assaulters he thinks is unjustly accused--Cosby? Weinstein? Louis CK? Moonves? Charlie Rose? Trump?
They all look pretty freaking guilty from where I stand.