They used to commonly be called capacitor microphones.
And the antiquated term for a capacitor is condenser (I think because it "condenses" electrical charge), which is why the name condenser microphone became common.
Almost. Sorry if this comes across as unnecessarily pedantic, but there are a few misconceptions that hopefully can clarify the actual operating mechanism.
it varies it's actual capacitance/charge/voltage simultaneously...
For a condenser microphone to work properly, the charge must be nearly constant. That is why such high resistances are needed for supplying the polarization voltage and for the input to the buffer amplifier. The equation describing the relationship between charge and voltage of a capacitor is:
Q=CV
where Q is the charge, C is the capacitance, and V is the voltage. You can re-arrange that to V=Q/C, and if Q is held constant, when C changes, that causes V to change.
The capacitance is defined by the distance between the conductive plates (in the microphone case the backplate and the conductive diaphragm), and the dielectric constant (which in the case of a microphone is air between the backplate and diaphragm, so effectively dielectric constant of 1).
The movement of air causes the distance between the diaphragm and backplate to vary, which varies the capacitance.
If the charge were allowed to vary as well, when the capacitance changed, the voltage would not be predictable based on just the capacitance change.
So the backplate gets a hefty charge - say 60V...
60V is a voltage, which as you can see above is one of the three terms in the equation, and is
not the charge term.
Q=CV, so for a typical large diaphragm capsule would be around Q=60pF*60V->Q=3.6x10^-9 coulombs, or 3.6nC.
When a sound pushes the diaphram closer, it's physically closer to the backplate so more electrons are pulled into the diaphram (i.e. votage increases in the diaphram and it's wired terminal/circuit etc);
Nope, when a sound pushes the diaphragm closer, the amount of electrons in the capacitance stay the same, and because V=Q/C, the closer spacing causes C to become larger, which for a fixed Q causes V to become lower.
If more electrons were pulled into the capacitor, then C and Q would change until V stayed the same, which is usually not what you want with a typical voltage based buffer amp. I suppose you could try to make a really sensitive current-to-voltage amplifier (aka a transimpedance amplifier), and amplify charge going in and out of the capsule with a fixed voltage, but I think the noise constraints of that type of design would be difficult. I have never seen a microphone built that way, even though it would in theory be possible to have a fixed voltage and varying charge.
With a feedback system sending the a filtered signal to the backplate, the actual backplate voltage is changing.
Yes. Typical designs have either the backplate voltage fixed, and the signal taken from the diaphragm, or the other way, with the diaphragm voltage fixed and the signal taken from the backplate (with some switchable pattern dual-diaphragm mics, for example).
When the backplate voltage is not fixed, you still have the change in voltage across the capsule, but usually when a voltage is described with no qualifiers, there is an implicit assumption that the voltage is referenced to the circuit common/0V/"gnd" node. That is short-hand for output=capsule voltage - 0V.
In the case of feedback sent to the capsule it becomes output = capsule voltage - feedback voltage. So the voltage across the capsule is (mostly) the same, but complicated by the fact that the feedback voltage could be changing the electrostatic attraction between the diaphragm and backplate and so modifying how much the capsule capacitance varies for a particular sound pressure.
I have just been following this thread casually, but I have not seen a transfer function analysis yet that would show how the capsule voltage varies with the feedback. If when the feedback voltage increases the backplate voltage, and that causes a corresponding increase in the diaphragm voltage (because the high input impedance of the buffer amp is essentially allowing the diaphragm voltage to float), then that might result in an increase in the voltage at the tube grid even though the voltage between the backplate and diaphragm did not change. Only the voltage between the backplate and diaphragm controls the electrostatic attraction. If the entire capsule is "floating" on the feedback voltage then the feedback will change the voltage which actually gets to the buffer amp, but will not change the mechanical properties of the capsule at all. Based on the impedance differences between the drive to the backplate and the grid resistor of the buffer amp that could be the case.