About adding a FET to the meter circuit, I had this in mind. I didn't try it on a breadboard (which would have to be done) but it looks good when I plotted out the voltages.
Similar to a 1176, a second FET mirrors the one in the audio path. Both FETs would share the same cv, so you wouldn't need the meter path on the original schematic anymore (cr3, cr4, r53, r55, c12, r54,r68,cr6).
Since the resistance of the FET is loglinear with cv, the meter voltage from this divider has to go to a log scaled (dB) LED driver. Since you want to see GR steps, something like the LM3915 since it gives even dB increments.
I couldn't figure out how to change the fullscale range on the LM3915 this morning, however. 30dB fs is more than needed. Maybe it could be adjusted or a different chip would give the range you want...